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Sunday, July 31, 2011

Height of Artificiality...

Ok, all my Blogends (Blogger +Friends)… Finally I am off all those traps that I was bound by…I am in here, with lot of fresh air and a fresh positive feeling…Thanks to Dost & Tomz for their prompt response to my earlier blog… Being away from Blogs for long period has such disadvantages…all those regulars who have been there giving me their precious opinions cease coming in …when they see I am no longer writing anything…lol!!! But still, never mind…I would want to vent out all the happiness and sorrows in here..so that I feel relieved by dumping them on to my Blogends’ head..hehe!!! Cool na…So, I am sure, U can feel the cheerfulness in my mood today…that’s the effect of the newness in my life…hmmm…

SO for those who are wondering, what happened..and for those who could understand nothing from my previous blog…Let me tell u…after all the hassles, finally I left my old job and joined a new company…with a better pay, benefits and Position…Ok…now, don’t think…the pay or the benefits or the position was my attraction…they were all added gifts from God to me…The main attraction of the New Job was that I COULD LEAVE THAT PLACE…not that the company I worked for was bad..It was a wonderful company..but the ONE person that I had the misfortune to work with…had made me hate that job where I had spend my last 5 years…

I know, Past is Past…but then, at times, I really wonder, how could I be so enduring…I, who could not take the least bit of unpleasant behavior suffered absolute unacceptable behavior for 2 years without fighting back…hmmm…Wanna share it with you guys…I am sure, many of u might have already gone thru such situations…which should be clearly called as an ABUSE…a Professional Abuse…The name suits it well..as the harassment I had faced was at a very professional environment in a professional way…lol!!!So here goes, some highlights of my days of Abuse…hmm…

Starting Days
An extremely artificial person…Lets call her S meets me and assists me in knowing the work. I wondered why I felt her behavior to be so ARTIFICIAL when she was so nice to me…Days passed as I realized, how artificially she showed her pleasantness to all that was pleasant to her. I behaved well…hmmm…She was not my Boss, but at times she acted as one…I dint mind, as long as it wasn’t of much intensity…

After Six Months…
I was selected as one of the few to be with the Top Management for some specific meetings. I dint feel it to be a big thing, while others said it was…and that day, I started seeing that she started to shower me with rudeness and harshness in anything and everything…Any query from my side was answered with an “IDONT KNOW.. U GO CHECK”…”DON’T TELL ME”…etc etc…I ignored…and behaved friendly as always…

Another Six months…
I had no time to even raise my head at my desk…NOT bcoz work was overflowing in the office…but bcoz work was over flowing on my table…While my two other colleagues sat joking, surfing nets…I was dumped with stuff to do…I WAS FINE…as I never wasted time and finished my work daily on time without keeping anything for pending…

The Two Onlookers…
Uhm my two other colleagues…they behaved normal when she was not around..and when she was there, they behaved as if they never knew me…One of them warned me of S’s nature…of backbiting and bitching…She told me, how she was the Victim till I came and now, S is busy focusing on only ME…She shamelessly told me, how she acted so excitedly to her just to avoid a confrontation…I too started noticing, how quickly they used to ridicule her the moment she left the room..even for the matters they all spoke so sweetly with each other…They adviced me too to just SHOW OFF affection…I couldn’t…So…situation didn’t change much…I existed in that office only for the work side and for them, they acted, I dint ever exist…

Tough days…
After the First year, it was almost near to my limit of adjusting and ignoring..things started getting into my nerves…Finally, I decided to take it up with Superiors…I reached the HR…The Director gave two options…Either go for a formal Complaint..or Confront her with the issue…



I confronted her in front of the Boss…She said some CRAP reasons for her CRAPPY behavior…She was in the tension of some exams…I said softly… “Never take your personal tensions on others… I wouldn’t do that even if I had 101 tensions outside...”

Behind the Scene
She was genuinely trying to malign my reputation in front of my boss…with regular complaints about me..Can we call it a complaint…or should we call it a School Kid fantasies… “Teacher, tht kid pinched me…Teacher, she’s staring at me…Teacher, She’s not sitting on her seat…”

On three different occasions, the BOSS behaved as if he believed everything he said, and he came forward with some SO CALLED SUGGESTIONS…He never confronted me with such issues as complaints…But as Suggestions… Some of the conversations we had…

“Jzt, please take care of coming on time to work…HR is monitoring”
“But, Boss, I reach office daily 15 minutes before time…”
“OH OK, then fine…I just informed you of policies…” (Remember, I had joined that company even before he was there…and this was just an Internal Transfer)


“Jzt, kindly see to it that during office timings, you don’t use the phone much…”
“But Boss, you are sitting near me. Have you ever seen me on phone during duty hours…”
“No..I haven’t seen you..I was just saying…”
“Ok, if I was doing that, I could have controlled it..Still I will keep it in mind..”


“Jzt, S is planning some work…her new initiative…U should help her in tht..”
“But Boss, this has been initiated & implemented by me soon after I joined this office…And I am regularly updating it…”
“Oh, u r already up-to date on that…??? Then its fine…”


Etc etc etc…

Three months back…
Limits were broken…frustrations grew…No talks helped…I hated going to that office, seeing her face…Wished, I could just leave everything and blast out of that place…Indirectly, it started affecting my health…my mental peace..my behavior…my temperament…in short…it was destroying me completely… I knew it…

A Confidential Meeting…
A Last try…Met with the Boss personally…and explained how pathetic things were happening…He claimed, that even he had noticed…At the end, I declared… “If she can’t change, I can either look for a job change or a department change…”… He too was firm when he said... “NO, she has to change...that is not professional…”…We part ways deciding that soon he will meet me and her together and sit and discuss…I waited eagerly for the day…

That was it…
Five days after the meeting, the BOSS called me and shocked me when he said... “Jzt, I have got a complaint against you…You talk on the phone a lot during working hours…”

That was the limit… and I blasted… “BOSS, I AM DONE WITH THIS, NOW...ANYMORE DISCUSSION, I DO IT IN FRONT OF HER…I WANT TO CLEAR THIS NOW AND HERE…”

And soon…She entered…with her usual Artificial Self…for the first time, I laughed mockingly…towards that embodiment of artificiality…

Height of Artificiality…

5 comments:

KParthasarathi said...

Sad your earlier office atmosphere was not congenial with a bad colleague and an indifferent and ineffective boss.Could you not hv asked her to shut up and mind her own business unless she was higher than you in the hierarchy? An unpleasant place undoubtedly tells upon health and there wldn't be the usual enthusiasm to go to office.
You did the right thing in getting out when your complaints were not heard properly.But running away from such situations may not be the right solution always .Develop the grit to confront and face situations.
Wish you all the best in the new place.May be we must thank S for hastening the change that brought you better pay packet, new exposure,peace of mind and agreeable ambience.

Tomz said...

I hate such characters..better u left that job..perhaps, her character may be not good, i mean morally she might be loose, or she might be having people at the top management level

Bikramjit said...

How u took it for so long I salute that patience. I could not have done it at all.
What sort of idiots do this I am amzes at the boss who saw how good you worked and still.

You got promoted so you are very good I am sure where you go they will be happy to have you.
We do get such people but one advice next time dont ignore and take it always a good idea to nip it in. Bud... You were taking it so that boosted their confidence to humiliate you more.
Sorry to hear abou this dont worry keep smiling.....

Sh@s said...

This is sad. Some people manage to ruin everything. Your boss too lacked the courage to confront the real culprit rather than make you a scapegoat.
Glad to see you back.
Take care

Jzt4me said...

@ Dost

I wasnt running away...I was all the time trying to avoid an Unpleasant Cat-Fight...Still tried the Gandhigiri..Went it dint work..I lost the interest in working there..and God knew, I might have deserved better..so I am here now...

@ Tomz

Not sure about the character..But she had an extremely artifical behaviour where she could act as if she was THE BEST EMPLOYEE...and the worst is, she literally did nothing other than browsing net and dumping work on my table...uhmm..

@ Bikram

Yeah, dear..even I am surprised how I tolerated this for this long time...maybe to show me, my own strength, haha!!!

@Sh@s

Thanks dear, some things and some people never change..and expecting them to change is a stupid thing... I had stopped expecting that soon after my first two OPEN TALKS with her...but my boss thought, he COULD change her...and what happened later I will post soon...