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Tuesday, November 11, 2014

'What others would think' Syndrome...

As a grownup, it is expected from us adults to behave with maturity and seriousness to life. Not to forget the intelligence that is expected to be used. Hmmmm!!! Recently, I am going through some serious guilty consciousness due this unexplained expectation of maturity…Ok, I am guilty, for expecting my little kid to act and behave the way I want him to… When we are dealing with our children. Why is it that we expect from them the same maturity that we expect to show at different situations? I do wonder, if I was right by being strict with my son on how he should behave or how he should talk or how he should think and what not. Still, I am not able to stop myself from behaving so again…

Frankly speaking, I know and I am 100% sure that my son is way above many of the other kids of his own age group. He is intelligent, smart and very loving. At the same time, I always complain to him that he has got an ass that never can touch the chair. He keeps jumping up and down, running around and above all, his hands never stay calm. It irritates me so much, especially when we are outside. I keep telling him to be responsible, not forgetful and take care of his own things. Remember, he is only 7 years old.

He builds geometrical shapes and designs with the spoons, forks and knives arranged at a Restaurant table and I scream “NOOOO, behaaaaveee!!!” He prefer sprinting like a Kangaroo rather than walking and I ask him “Is this the way I am walking? Walk properly”… He sings completely silly lyrics and I reprimand him “Don’t spoil the song, if you cant sing properly”…He keeps practicing his Karate on my poor dad and mom, but when he is outside the house, he happily takes all the punches others give and I ridicule, “Where did your karate skills go. Were you scared of that li'l kid”

Am I right or wrong? I have a big NO as an answer to my own question, but still I am not able to control myself from doing it. Every time, he runs or jumps around, I screams…and he would carelessly say, “OK, OK!!!” … I know, for him I am his Supermom…but he still hates me screaming at him for things that he might be feeling is silly. What can I do? I feels so stupid to be so vulnerable to such a behaviour which even I detest…

Wish I could be one of those sweet mother, who let her kid do whatever they want…Ouww, the thought itself makes me go crazy… Why? Maybe, because I too became a social being? Bcoz I started worrying more about what others might think or say about my kid? What if somebody else would think my kid is not a good boy… With grief, I realise, I too am a victim of ‘What others would think’ syndrome. This was something, I always fought with my mom for …Whenever she tried controlling me for the sake of the society and people around us… and now I have just fallen into the same Category…hmm…

My dear son, all I wanna let you know is that I love you a lot… I know, you are just a kid and a very good kid too...Your mom too is trying to be a good mom, but then fail at times… But I will keep trying…atleast to grow you up to a Gentleman who is not infected by this crazy disease…

 ‘What others would think’ Syndrome…