As a
grownup, it is expected from us adults to behave with maturity and seriousness
to life. Not to forget the intelligence that is expected to be used. Hmmmm!!!
Recently, I am going
through some serious guilty consciousness due this unexplained expectation of
maturity…Ok, I am guilty, for expecting my little kid to act and behave the way
I want him to… When we are dealing with our children. Why is it that we expect
from them the same maturity that we expect to show at different situations? I
do wonder, if I was right by being strict with my son on how he should behave
or how he should talk or how he should think and what not. Still, I am not able
to stop myself from behaving so again…
Frankly
speaking, I know and I am 100% sure that my son is way above many of the other
kids of his own age group. He is intelligent, smart and very loving. At the
same time, I always complain to him that he has got an ass that never can touch
the chair. He keeps jumping up and down, running around and above all, his
hands never stay calm. It irritates me so much, especially when we are outside.
I keep telling him to be responsible, not forgetful and take care of his own
things. Remember, he is only 7 years old.
He builds
geometrical shapes and designs with the spoons, forks and knives arranged at a
Restaurant table and I scream “NOOOO, behaaaaveee!!!” He prefer sprinting like
a Kangaroo rather than walking and I ask him “Is this the way I am walking? Walk
properly”… He sings completely silly lyrics and I reprimand him “Don’t spoil
the song, if you cant sing properly”…He keeps practicing his Karate on my poor
dad and mom, but when he is outside the house, he happily takes all the punches
others give and I ridicule, “Where did your karate skills go. Were you scared of that li'l kid”…
Am I right
or wrong? I have a big NO as an answer to my own question, but still I am not
able to control myself from doing it. Every time, he runs or jumps around, I
screams…and he would carelessly say, “OK, OK!!!” … I know, for him I am his
Supermom…but he still hates me screaming at him for things that he might be
feeling is silly. What can I do? I feels so stupid to be so vulnerable to such
a behaviour which even I detest…
Wish I could
be one of those sweet mother, who let her kid do whatever they want…Ouww, the
thought itself makes me go crazy… Why? Maybe, because I too became a social
being? Bcoz I started worrying more about what others might think or say about
my kid? What if somebody else would think my kid is not a good boy… With grief,
I realise, I too am a victim of ‘What others would think’ syndrome. This was
something, I always fought with my mom for …Whenever she tried controlling me
for the sake of the society and people around us… and now I have just fallen
into the same Category…hmm…
My dear son,
all I wanna let you know is that I love you a lot… I know, you are just a kid
and a very good kid too...Your mom too is trying to be a good mom, but then
fail at times… But I will keep trying…atleast to grow you up to a Gentleman who
is not infected by this crazy disease…
‘What others
would think’ Syndrome…
