What the HELL!!!

When I was talking to you about my friend who married a stranger turned chat friend turned lover turned husband, I started thinking of my own experiences with strangers…Let me be honest and tell you, I have had few years of very addicted chatting. Spoke to strangers, made friends and if I really think back, some of my still close friends are those I got thru chat…I was lucky enuf to earn not much frauds as friends…These friends are known to my family and they are close to them too…

Would you believe, I have faced some psycho characters in real life…Unfortunately, Strangers from the Virtual world were much safer than these people…Who was part of the Real world around me but chose to be Strangers and then tried messing my life…Literally, I faced quite some trouble keeping them off my life…

I was 17 or 18 years when this boy started literally making my life hell by following me everywhere… I never saw him face to face, except for his Love letters which I tore off or the phone calls which I never answered… I still remember the day when my neighbor cum friend came all scared and told me, “One guy stopped my cycle on my way back from class today. He threw my cycle over the wall into the neighboring house compound and threatened me that I shouldn’t walk with you or talk to you.” WHAT THE HELL!!!

Years later, there was this character who used to regularly call my home and shout at my mom for fixing my marriage with somebody else other than him…As per him, ‘He wanted to marry me and was waiting for his career to get settled. And when he came to seek my hand from my parents, I was already engaged’. Now, do I know him? NO!!! Have I made any claims to him that I would marry him? NO! How would I when I doesn’t even know who he is…I still wonder who tht person is who knew me and my family inside out…and was obsessed to marry me…Until I had to answer his call and threaten to put him behind bars…What he claimed was that he knew me from my native land and followed me to be around me… WHAT THE HELL!!!

Another guy, went one step ahead when he called my husband, my then fiancée and warned him not marry me…else face consequences…I had to again intervene as my husband was ignoring tht call. I cudnt, as it was matter of my pride too. I called him and bashed him on the phone. When I asked him, if I even knew him, he had to shamelessly say that I dint know him, but he knows me…He met me at my work place and was secretly loving me, it seems…WHAT THE HELL!!!

There was this another peculiar character…lol!!! He knew me through my CV which I had sent to the company he too was working for. This guy contacted me in reference to a job vacancy and soon got friendly. I knew it from the initial talk itself that this guy was an Insecure and Silly character. Being me, I started my counseling service…To hell with me…which reached to an extent where this guy got so attached to me…I have never met him…He knew how I looked through the picture my CV had…When he knew, my marriage was fixed, he was distraught. He even called my fiancée and like a Mental character wished him a Happy Married life…I remember, my husband telling me how I manage to get friends with such characters. How true…me and my psychological approach….Would you like to know more of this guy… ‘He got married, had a kid. He called me then and asked my permission to name his baby girl my name’… WHAT THE HELL!!!

Now, I don’t hate these guys…But somebody from the family really earned a lot of my hatred. He was a cousin to my cousin’s husband. This guy came into my life posing as a female. Started chatting with me with a fake id, Priyanka. It was the time, when I was going thru a major depression phase of my life and naturally a girl friend with whom I could speak openly was a boon. I spoke openly about my life and problems and sought her advice. Only much later I knew it was actually him. I felt so betrayed. More frustrating was that, I couldn’t show it to him, being a relative. But, with that, the trust factor was lost and I avoided any interaction with him as much as possible.

But, to worsen up the old memories…Recently, my mom told me something. This guy had saved my chats on the Desktop of my cousin's system (as he was chatting from my cousin’s place)…, wherein I had shared some problems of mine. My cousin and her husband had read these chats too. Past 10 years, they never cared to tell / warn me of the same. Now, for whatever reason, my cousin told my mom of the same and asked my mom to warn me to keep off from that man. Now, who should I hate more? WHAT THE HELL!!!

They say that there are frauds in this world who can destroy your life through Internet Chatting, Missed Call maniacs and what not…But in my case, you tell me…Which was safe… ‘The Real or the Virtual World…’. What more can I tell, other than,

“What the HELL!!!”

Isn't Life Strange…

Do you speak to strangers? I mean complete strangers…I know, many of us grew up with our parents warning us not to talk to strangers…Me too, but I also know that I have never actually followed their rule and has myself fallen into trouble due to tht…I have even posted my experience with a stranger years back…a very nerve wrecking experience it was…and did I learn anything from that incident??? I suppose, NO…bcoz, tht never stopped me from getting friendly with strangers…Why I started all this up was… was to actually share with u a strange relation with a stranger…A flashback frm my life

The heroine of this story is not me, but my friend…Now, this happened years back, when I was trying to actually replenish my skills in art by learning some multimedia…I met her there…I still remember, seeing her for the first time…In age, she was older than me…but, the way she behaved, I wondered was she a child…I always thought of myself as a talkative…but she was…TAAAAALKATIVE…or lets say…Chirpy….(now those were the days, when I was struck with the Obsessive / possessive relation and naturally, I was scared to even talk to anybdy…)…I always saw her entering the computer lab with a hard push on the door, with a broad smile and big hello to anybdy and everybody who sat in tht room..She knew them or not, God knows…atleast I dint know her…

I saw her intruding into everybdy’s table…hehe!!! Joking and talking as she went past each person…She knew everybody? I wondered…Now, how and when I became friends with her…I forgot…rather the years erased off tht memory from my brain…But, soon, she was with me every evening…we used to sit together with another friend and do our projects together…It was with her, I dared to do some of the craziest things for the first time in my life…

Like, riding a Scooter..not alone, but with two of them…a Triples…to top the craziness, we drove all the way up in a one way road and faced the Police Patrol car….and still managed to come out of the mess without much damage…lol!!! She was all SET for anything…when we three wanted to go smwhere…she would say… “Why waste money on auto..lets go Triple”…hmmm…and we did…

For first time, I bunked classes and went to a Coffee joint…I don’t take coffe, but ofcourse burgers…and imagine, 3 girls and none of us has a Pocket money to boast about…we would literally count every single coins we could find from our purse and if we managed to get atleast Rs 6…will buy one Chocolate pastry cake and then we three would share and eat tht…we could share tht one cake for the maximum of one whole hour…lol!!! We never tried holding on for more time, bcoz we never knew, when the shop owners felt like throwing us out…

We laughed aloud for the most stupidest things…got serious for the most silliest issue…and gossiped as if tomorrow never wud come…Think, those were few months of my life, that I would wish would come back…

Ohh, I went out of the main point…Strangers…now…she is the one who introduced me to talking to strangers professionally..hahah!!! Yes, I meant…Chatting...Chatting in public chat rooms…gosh…I was such a baby when it came to Internet or surfing till tht day…She thought me how to use internet and above anything, HOW TO CHAT…with STRANGERS….Now, why she did tht…Bcoz, she was in love with one of her chat friend and they regularly chatted at the internet café…She dint wanted to sit there alone, so had to drag me too with her…Now, when I am sitting there, she wouldn’t want me to read her chats, right? So she would book one more computer for me, so tht I be busy in tht…And so, officially, I created a chat id and started chatting with strangers….hmmm!!! Don’t worry, never got into any trouble then…

Now, I wasn’t telling about tht…I am talking about the stranger she was in love with…grrr…the topic has been swaying out of the main subject too many times and I am confused now…Better I just finish it here right now…You guys are saved tht I lost interest in typing up anything …

So, she fell in love with a guy who she befriended at a Public Chat room, who was working abroad…to be precise, the place where I am NOW….they regularly chatted…and…the best part was…he paid for her and my Internet Café bills..hahaha!!!Every month, he also used to send her a pocket money…and the other two of us would wait for her to announce the news of the money’s arrival….and guess where we would run to…Naturally, take a triples to the Coffee Shop, our dear “Hot Breads”…and that day, we would show nooo misery in buying things…Cakes, Milkshakes, icecreams and what not…and She would sarcastically sigh and say… “Poor my man is working hard somewhere all alone and earning this money…and u people are enjoying it…hmmm”… How true…we prayed for a moment for his safety…hahaha!!!

Months passed like tht…Neither she has seen her lover nor us…Just tht we have seen the photographs that he had emailed…Soon, I had to fly off to this land as my life was changing drastically…I crossed the sea with lots of treasures of hers to be gifted to him…Thus, I met her boyfriend for the first time…even before she met him…Wow, thank god…it’s the same person…as tht was in the photograph…and this Chat friend was not a fake…I was relieved…(as I always had this fear, whether, she was being cheated by some unknown stranger…Those days, chatting had not much of a good reputation…)…

Soon, he became a good friend to me and family too… Phew, I had to lie to my parents (now they know the truth…)…I told, tht he is my friend’s friend’s brother…grrr…With time, my parents were also made aware of the fact that they r in love and is planning to get married without their family’s knowledge…as they both were from two extreme religions…hmmm…He flew to my mother country seeking blessings from my parents and she in turn met him at the Marriage Registrar’s office with my grandpa’s blessings…They met each other for the first time at the steps of their marriage life, lol!!

They signed the marriage contract and she went back to her home and he flew back…Within 3 months, he prepared all legal papers required for her travel…and one fine day…she left her home as usual for her classes…Boarded the flight and crossed the sea…Gosh…I remember tht day…Such a scary day…As her brother searched for her…He first went to my grandpa’s house…and poor he…cud neither say anything nor lie…So asked to call me…He called me and asked me, if I knew anything…At tht moment, I was standing at the Arrivals of the Airport waving at her…I asked him to go and see our third friend…

My friend had left a letter and some photographs of her marriage and all her gold ornaments and stuff with our third friend to be handed over to her family….hmmmmmmm…!!!

This happened years back…and as I type this down…if u ask me, if what she did was right or wrong…I cant say…It was LOVE that made her do tht..and I supported her being her friend and an ardent follower of Love…I know, there were some strangeness with her family, for which reason, she also took such a drastic step…Afterall, she was leaving all tht she had for a STRANGER….What if, he turned out to be a crook…hmmm!!!!

Anyways…today…she is happily married with two beautiful kids…We are still best of friends…still missing those old days…wishing tht we cud some day re-live those HOT BREAD days…ride a scooter…into a One Way road…get caught by police…frantically search for enough money to buy a piece of cake…lol…I know, none of this can ever happen with the same intensity as it had happened years back…so it would never be the same…

 

“Isn't Life Strange…”